Lena Chen

is a reluctant sexpert, a feminist and queer advocate, and a walking case study on bad publicity. As a Harvard undergrad, she authored the blog Sex and the Ivy about her college sexcapades and misadventures. Her reputation has never quite recovered. Want to give her a book deal, send her hate mail, or misquote her in an article? Read her daily musings at The Ch!cktionary and check out her full bio.

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Ask Lena: “Rachel Berry repulses me, but I see myself in her. How can I be less clingy?”

Check me out on gURL.com giving the latest sex and dating advice!

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There are a lot of myths about what sex can or can’t do for your relationship. One of the most long-standing is that having sex will bring you and your partner to a new emotional level. But what about that old adage about buying the cow when you can get the milk for free?

gURL reader vso92 wanted to know if sex would bring her partner closer…or not.

Watch my vlog above and tell me if you agree in the comments below! Do you think physical intimacy increases emotional intimacy?

And don’t forget to email me your questions, thoughts, rants, and desires at askanexpert@gurl.com!

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Exclusive Video! Lena’s Advice To Sammi “Sweetheart”

Check out our exclusive Q&A with Sammi and our two cents on her relationship with Ronnie Ortiz-Magro.

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Oxytocin: The Pseudoscience of the Hook-Up Hormone | Sex Really

In which I explain how abstinence proponents turn completely legit scientific studies into junk science. Their conclusions? Don’t have sex. Mine is a bit more nuanced.