Lena Chen

is a reluctant sexpert, a feminist and queer activist, and a walking case study on bad publicity. Once called the "self-appointed poster girl for ... brainy girls gone wild", she authored the blog Sex and the Ivy about her misadventures and sexcapades as a Harvard undergrad. Her reputation has never quite recovered.

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Hi folks! This week, I’m in San Francisco, where the Center for Sex and Culture is screening the new documentary by Therese Shechter. I first met Therese back in 2010 when she interviewed me for the film, and it’s been hugely gratifying to see this independent women-led project develop into a multi-platform educational tool for combating outdated gender stereotypes and sexual norms. Saturday’s screening will be followed by a Q&A with the director and film subjects. I’ve already seen it once on television and can’t wait to see this project on the big screen :) Here’s the synopsis:
It has launched both purity balls and porn franchises, defines a young woman’s morality–but has no medical definition. Enter the magical world of virginity, where a white wedding dress can restore a woman’s innocence and replacement hymens can be purchased online. Therese Shechter (who previously directed I WAS A TEENAGE FEMINIST) uses her own path out of virginity to explore why our sex-crazed society cherishes this so-called precious gift. Along the way, we meet sex educators, virginity auctioneers, abstinence advocates, and young men and women who bare their tales of doing it—or not doing it. “How To Lose Your Virginity” uncovers the myths and misogyny surrounding a rite of passage that many obsesses about but few truly understand.
Want more information? Check out the movie website and go beyond the film to the V-Card Diaries, a crowd-sourced collection of sexual debuts and deferrals.
"How to Lose Your Virginity" Sat, April 5, 8pm – 10pm Center for Sex and Culture1349 Mission Street, San Francisco, CA
Tickets at the door: $8-25 sliding scale. Note: Because of the exhibits at the center, this space is 18+ only.

Hi folks! This week, I’m in San Francisco, where the Center for Sex and Culture is screening the new documentary by Therese Shechter. I first met Therese back in 2010 when she interviewed me for the film, and it’s been hugely gratifying to see this independent women-led project develop into a multi-platform educational tool for combating outdated gender stereotypes and sexual norms. Saturday’s screening will be followed by a Q&A with the director and film subjects. I’ve already seen it once on television and can’t wait to see this project on the big screen :) Here’s the synopsis:

It has launched both purity balls and porn franchises, defines a young woman’s morality–but has no medical definition. Enter the magical world of virginity, where a white wedding dress can restore a woman’s innocence and replacement hymens can be purchased online. Therese Shechter (who previously directed I WAS A TEENAGE FEMINIST) uses her own path out of virginity to explore why our sex-crazed society cherishes this so-called precious gift. Along the way, we meet sex educators, virginity auctioneers, abstinence advocates, and young men and women who bare their tales of doing it—or not doing it. “How To Lose Your Virginity” uncovers the myths and misogyny surrounding a rite of passage that many obsesses about but few truly understand.

Want more information? Check out the movie website and go beyond the film to the V-Card Diaries, a crowd-sourced collection of sexual debuts and deferrals.

"How to Lose Your Virginity"
Sat, April 5, 8pm – 10pm
Center for Sex and Culture
1349 Mission Street, San Francisco, CA

Tickets at the door: $8-25 sliding scale. Note: Because of the exhibits at the center, this space is 18+ only.

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Faith and First Times: Sex, Society and Religion

I’m speaking tonight at Pomona College and will be in Los Angeles until Wednesday. If you’re in the Claremont area, come check this out :)

Faith and First Times: Sex, Society and Religion
Thursday, October 4th, 7:00-8:30pm
Rose Hills Theatre, Pomona College

In today’s modern age, female sexuality has become less taboo to discuss. Whether through Cosmopolitan Magazine or Victoria’s Secret, society is beginning to explore a certain brand of female sexuality. Yet many women of faith are faced with the dilemma of embracing their sexuality while still maintaining religious traditions that value virginity and purity, while secular women often feel these cultural representations are not a true expression of their experiences. Come join the Pomona Student Union at Faith and First Times, an event aimed at exploring the influences of religion on virginity and how it effects women in today’s society.

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My Sex In The Digital Age panel was really fun/funny. (Perhaps to be expected when one is on the same panel as the person who first broke the story of their sex scandal, hah.)

If you couldn’t make my #digitalsex panel, check out coverage from NOW Toronto and The Daily Texan (or on Twitter).

My Sex In The Digital Age panel was really fun/funny. (Perhaps to be expected when one is on the same panel as the person who first broke the story of their sex scandal, hah.)

If you couldn’t make my #digitalsex panel, check out coverage from NOW Toronto and The Daily Texan (or on Twitter).

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Ask Lena: “I think I might be gay! Am I?”

Amber Heard recently came out at the GLAAD 25th anniversary party. So reader Susie was wondering…how do you know if you’re gay?

Unfortunately there is no hard and fast rule, other than being attracted to the same sex. But sexuality is fluid, and there’s no real reason to attach labels to yourself that may not fit. Check out my video above for a better explanation.

And remember, if you have a question, don’t be afraid to ask! You don’t even need to give you name, just shoot an email to askanexpert@gurl.com.

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I tried to not sound like a valley girl. Not entirely successful. Also, I hate myself on camera and took a bajillion takes to get this right.

Shelving the self criticism for a second, if you know teen girls sick of the generic advice in newsstand glossies, send them over to gURL.com’s new Health, Sex, & Relationships blog and tell them to write me at askanexpert@gURL.com.

(Source: lenachen)