Lena Chen

is a reluctant sexpert, a feminist and queer advocate, and a walking case study on bad publicity. As a Harvard undergrad, she authored the blog Sex and the Ivy about her college sexcapades and misadventures. Her reputation has never quite recovered. Want to give her a book deal, send her hate mail, or misquote her in an article? Read her daily musings at The Ch!cktionary and check out her full bio.

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Faith and First Times: Sex, Society and Religion

I’m speaking tonight at Pomona College and will be in Los Angeles until Wednesday. If you’re in the Claremont area, come check this out :)

Faith and First Times: Sex, Society and Religion
Thursday, October 4th, 7:00-8:30pm
Rose Hills Theatre, Pomona College

In today’s modern age, female sexuality has become less taboo to discuss. Whether through Cosmopolitan Magazine or Victoria’s Secret, society is beginning to explore a certain brand of female sexuality. Yet many women of faith are faced with the dilemma of embracing their sexuality while still maintaining religious traditions that value virginity and purity, while secular women often feel these cultural representations are not a true expression of their experiences. Come join the Pomona Student Union at Faith and First Times, an event aimed at exploring the influences of religion on virginity and how it effects women in today’s society.

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My Sex In The Digital Age panel was really fun/funny. (Perhaps to be expected when one is on the same panel as the person who first broke the story of their sex scandal, hah.)

If you couldn’t make my #digitalsex panel, check out coverage from NOW Toronto and The Daily Texan (or on Twitter).

My Sex In The Digital Age panel was really fun/funny. (Perhaps to be expected when one is on the same panel as the person who first broke the story of their sex scandal, hah.)

If you couldn’t make my #digitalsex panel, check out coverage from NOW Toronto and The Daily Texan (or on Twitter).

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BUST Magazine | The Naked Truth

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As I mentioned, I’m doing some catch-up blogging at the moment! Here’s a much belated copy of the February/March issue of BUST Magazine, which featured me in a story by Emily McCombs about sex bloggers who have been outed or subjected to harassment as a result of their writing. I’ve already blogged quite a bit about the vicious attacks that my friends and family have suffered over the years, but when interviewed for this piece last fall, I had no idea that some of my online stalkers would also be soon going after my readers. (I’m glad that this bullying has dwindled down the past few weeks, and I’m grateful for all the support that you guys have expressed!)

Next to some of the ladies in the above piece, I feel downright lucky. Melissa Petro was fired from her job as a teacher when she was outed as a sex worker. Zoe Margolis was relentlessly pursued by a tabloid that outed her. Most recently, Kendra Holliday is being sued by her ex-husband for full custody of her children because of her sexuality. Since I’ve always been self-employed, childless, and public with my identity, I haven’t had to deal with these problems (though I’m not sure “At least I’m not being canned!” is much of an upside to the situation). Nonetheless, it’s hard to explain to people why I continue doing what I’m doing. Isn’t writing about sex just attracting negative attention and bad publicity after all? This is actually  the precise topic about which I’m writing a personal essay right now … perhaps, I’ll share some of those thoughts on the blog when I’m feeling less vulnerable to misinterpretation.

In the meantime, you can read the full story from BUST. (Hint: you won’t be able to click through to the hi-res images on the Tumblr dashboard, so refer to TheChicktionary.com if you’re interested in reading):

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Ask Lena: “I think I might be gay! Am I?”

Amber Heard recently came out at the GLAAD 25th anniversary party. So reader Susie was wondering…how do you know if you’re gay?

Unfortunately there is no hard and fast rule, other than being attracted to the same sex. But sexuality is fluid, and there’s no real reason to attach labels to yourself that may not fit. Check out my video above for a better explanation.

And remember, if you have a question, don’t be afraid to ask! You don’t even need to give you name, just shoot an email to askanexpert@gurl.com.

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I tried to not sound like a valley girl. Not entirely successful. Also, I hate myself on camera and took a bajillion takes to get this right.

Shelving the self criticism for a second, if you know teen girls sick of the generic advice in newsstand glossies, send them over to gURL.com’s new Health, Sex, & Relationships blog and tell them to write me at askanexpert@gURL.com.

(Source: lenachen)